How Smart People Deal With People They Don’t Like

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In a perfect world, each person we interact with would be nice, kind, considerate, mindful, generous, and more. They would get our jokes and we would get theirs. We would all thrive in a convivial atmosphere where no one was ever cross, upset, or maligned.

However, we don’t live in a perfect world. Some people drive us crazy, and we (admittedly) drive a few mad as well. Those we dislike are inconsiderate, rushed, malign our character, question our motives, or just don’t get our jokes at all — but expect us to laugh at all theirs.

You might wonder whether it is possible to be fair to someone who ruffles you all the time, or someone you’d rather avoid eating lunch with. You might wonder if you should learn to like every person you meet.

According to Robert Sutton (a professor of management science at Stanford University), it’s neither possible — nor even ideal — to build a team comprised entirely of people you’d invite to a backyard barbecue.

That’s why smart people make the most out of people they don’t like. Here’s how they do it.

1. They accept that they are not going to like everyone.

Sometimes we get caught in the trap of thinking that we are nice people. We think that we are going to like everyone we interact with — even when that’s not going to happen. It’s inevitable you will encounter difficult people who oppose what you think. Smart people know this. They also recognize that conflicts or disagreements are a result of differences in values.

That person you don’t like is not intrinsically a bad human. The reason you don’t get along is because you have different values, and that difference creates judgment. Once you accept that not everyone will like you, and you won’t like everyone because of a difference in values, the realization can take the emotion out of the situation. That may even result in getting along better by agreeing to disagree.

2. They bear with (not ignore or dismiss) those they don’t like.

Sure, you may cringe at his constant criticism, grit your teeth at her lousy jokes, or shake your head at the way he hovers around her all the time, but feeling less than affectionate to someone might not be the worst thing. “From a performance standpoint, liking the people you manage too much is a bigger problem than liking them too little,” says Sutton.

“You need people who have different points of view and aren’t afraid to argue,” Sutton adds. “They are the kind of people who stop the organization from doing stupid things.” It may not be easy, but bear with them. It is often those who challenge or provoke us that prompt us to new insights and help propel the group to success. Remember, you are not perfect either, yet people still tolerate you.

3. They treat those they don’t like with civility.

Whatever your feelings are for someone, that person will be highly attuned to your attitude and behavior, and will likely reflect it back to you. If you are rude to them, they will likely throw away all decorum and be rude to you too. The onus; therefore, is on you to remain fair, impartial, and composed.

“Cultivating a diplomatic poker face is important. You need to be able to come across as professional and positive,” says Ben Dattner, an organizational psychologist and author of The Blame Game. This way you won’t stoop to their level or be sucked into acting the way they do.

4. They check their own expectations.

It’s not uncommon for people to have unrealistic expectations about others. We may expect others to act exactly as we would, or say the things that we might say in a certain situation. However, that’s not realistic. “People have ingrained personality traits that are going to largely determine how they react,” says Alan A. Cavaiola, PhD (psychology professor at Monmouth University in West Long Branch, New Jersey). “Expecting others to do as you would do is setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration.”

If a person causes you to feel exactly the same way every time, adjust your expectations appropriately. This way you’ll be psychologically prepared and their behavior will not catch you by surprise. Smart people do this all the time. They’re not always surprised by a dis-likable person’s behavior.

5. They turn inwards and focus on themselves.

No matter what you try, some people can still really get under our skin. It’s important that you learn how to handle your frustration when dealing with someone who annoys you. Instead of thinking about how irritating that person is, focus on why you are reacting the way you are. Sometimes what we don’t like in others is frequently what we don’t like in ourselves. Besides, they didn’t create the button, they’re only pushing it.

Pinpoint the triggers that might be complicating your feelings. You may then be able to anticipate, soften, or even alter your reaction. Remember: it’s easier to change your perceptions, attitude, and behavior than to ask someone to be a different kind of person.

6. They pause and take a deep breath.

Some personality characteristics may always set you off, says Kathleen Bartle (a California-based conflict consultant). Maybe it’s the colleague who regularly misses deadlines, or the guy who tells off-color jokes. Take a look at what sets you off and who’s pushing your buttons. That way, Bartle says, you can prepare for when it happens again.

According to her, “If you can pause and get a grip on your adrenaline pump and go to the intellectual part of your brain, you’ll be better able to have a conversation and to skip over the judgment.” A deep breath and one big step back can also help to calm you down and protect you from overreaction, thereby allowing you to proceed with a slightly more open mind and heart.

7. They voice their own needs.

If certain people constantly tick you off, calmly let them know that their manner of behavior or communication style is a problem for you. Avoid accusatory language and instead try the “When you . . . I feel . . .” formula. For example, Cacaiola advises you to tell that person, “When you cut me off in meetings, I feel like you don’t value my contributions.” Then, take a moment and wait for their response.

You may find that the other person didn’t realize you weren’t finished speaking, or your colleague was so excited about your idea that she enthusiastically jumped into the conversation.

8. They allow space between them.

If all else fails, smart people allow space between themselves and those they don’t like. Excuse yourself and go on your way. If at work, move to another room or sit at the other end of the conference table. With a bit of distance, perspective, and empathy, you may be able to come back and interact both with those people you like and those you don’t like as if unfazed.

Of course, everything would be easier if we could wish people we don’t like away. Too bad we all know that’s not how life works.


Election 2016 Consciousness

Conscientious Disruptors

Can we talk?  The other day I accidentally on purpose overheard a couple of people having a heated discussion of an unprecedented presidential election coming up in November.  It turns out that the United States of America, bless her majestic heart, is on the cusp of Greatness. but the people refuse to set aside partisanship in order to recognize the triumphs.

I know right?  This nation, which should be elated about how far they’ve come since their most recent great depression, has chosen to adopt a less than civil attitude towards their candidates of choice, and each other for that matter.  Don’t get me wrong, their country still has a long way to go to bridge their financial, gender and human equality gaps before they can declare a full recovery. And there could be an argument or two regarding how long it took to even get this far.

But that’s all substance for a healthy intellectual debate. What has become painfully evident is that there is an outright intolerance for character disagreements amongst the patrons.

Where did THAT come from? Or has it always been there under a cloak of unified civility? Like molten lava just beneath the earth’s crust, constantly nudging for a weak layer, lying in wait for the opportunity to burst through and declare freedom!

…Sorry…I digress…

Back on point.

What has become one of the most puzzling aspects to me is that both political majority parties have chosen unique and unprecedented candidates to lead them. Which at any other time in history would be cause for mass celebrations.

I mean just look at these candidacy overviews:

  • One candidate has absolutely no political background or preconceived notions of a bureaucratic agenda. Doesn’t care for political correctness and prefers to speak their mind openly and without filters. Has acquired extreme wealth, but is willing to do what the everyday common people want/need.
  • The other candidate who represents the cornerstone of the nation’s fabric of existence in family values as a wife, mother, grandmother and first female elected to represent a major political party in the history of The United States.   Experienced, poised, smart and knows how to get things done Internationally without compromising the nation’s safety.

You would not believe how divisive the voting communities have become over what should be a highly spirited debate for the Whitehouse.  The two camps are diametrically opposed in their sentiments and views. Which has stirred up some extreme anger and hostility that has absolutely NO PLACE in a society based on equality and fairness.  The disruption has no boundaries as it has ignited heated debates among families and friends, neighbors and co-workers as well as students and teachers.  The other day I was in the grocery store of all places, when out of the blue two ladies were arguing with a young male checkout clerk in an attempt to persuade him to their way of political thinking.

WHAT’S HAPPENING?  How can there be such passionate arguments over the views of the same two people? In response, I light-heartedly coined the below title from a book written by Ph.D. John Gray in 2009 that attempted to describe the differences between men and women, and have applied it to the strangely similar candidate views of this election:



Anyone following this election knows of which I speak.  If you’re not familiar, because of the rock under which you have called your domicile for the past year and a half doesn’t have cable or Internet access, I would like to illustrate for you a sample of the conversations that are happening in our social media almost nightly:

“OMG! Really Brian? What part of Trump’s rhetoric are you falling for? How could you even think about sending a fraud like that to the Whitehouse? He is a Bigot, a Racist, a Sexist homophobe with extreme narcissistic tendencies.   You’ve changed man…really, I worry about you!”

“Hillary Clinton is not only a crook, she’s a two-faced, cheating, wife of a prick with no more sense than God gave a Turnip. Benghazi was her fault and, and, and, if you ask anyone with half a brain they will tell you that she willfully and with malice deleted those 33,000 emails to hide her so-called platonic relationship with Vladimir Putin! Look it up!”

And they just go on and on and on…

  • “ Are you calling me a liar? She said it more than once!”
  • “He wasn’t talking about that when he said it.”
  •  “Oh yes she did!”
  •  “NO! I’m telling you for the last time, Trump’s wife NEVER posed NAKED!”
  •  “…so let me get this right.  You AND your wife know this for a fact!”
  •  “It’s all over Wikipedia man, there’s this NEW THING called the INTERNET!!! You should give it a try…. you fascist idiot moronic imbecile!!”
  •  “Who you calling a fascist??!!!??”

 At some point, at least that’s what I keep telling myself, they will all tire of the hostility and eventually go about their normal everyday business of humble living.  But I don’t believe that will happen until sometime after the November 8th election. Until then we’ll just have to endure and try to rise up.

Personally, I place most of the blame for this escalation of hostility squarely on the shoulders of Al Gore for creating the Internet in the first place.  The secondary level of blame will go to Mr. Mark Zuckerberg and his Faceless-Book!  Where people can and do embrace the Charters of Freedom and are endowed with certain inalienable rights to type what’s on their minds openly and freely from behind sheltered keyboards and obscured touchpads.

I for one welcome a time on social media where healthy intellectual debates on the issues that really matter take place, and where there is:

  1. Respect for the other’s opinion
  2. No tolerance for vulgarity
  3. Controlled tempers and temperament
  4. Equal listening to responding
  5. Less name calling and more objection silence

We are all unique participants in this thing called life.  And as individuals, we should recognize that we will have differences of opinions, tastes and expected outcomes. In order to help the process of mending fences along, I wish to offer the following little ditty:    -no, not about Jack and Diane-


I apologize to anyone that I may have offended regarding your candidate of choice in this election cycle.  My views, as I have come to reconcile, are no more important than yours and I respect the fact that we both want the best for our country and our families.

If our passions appeared to be on opposite sides of the fence, it’s because we arrived at the fence from two different angles.  I came from the West, and you came from the East.  What you’ve seen, heard and lived through is very different than my experiences.  But neither of us has cornered the market on trials and tribulations and therefore don’t have the rights to declare our versions of a single Silver Bullet solution.

This country did not fall apart overnight, and we cannot expect it to be healed by one election, one person or one ideology appointed in November.  Safety, Prosperity, Health and Freedom are what we all want, desire and deserve in this great nation of ours. How we get there has far less to do with who is in the Whitehouse, and everything to do what is deep and true within our hearts and minds.

This election should not cost friendships, family or relations.  Humility will be our salvation, or our undoing.

Here’s to your candidate ending up right where they should be at the end of this election, and to you continuing to live a life full of purpose and Joy!!




Working Anything but 9 to 5 – The New York Times

Working Anything but 9 to 5

Scheduling Technology Leaves Low-Income Parents With Hours of Chaos

AUGUST 13, 2014

SAN DIEGO — In a typical last-minute scramble, Jannette Navarro, a 22-year-old Starbucks barista and single mother, scraped together a plan for surviving the month of July without setting off family or financial disaster.

In contrast to the joyless work she had done at a Dollar Tree store and a KFC franchise, the $9-an-hour Starbucks job gave Ms. Navarro, the daughter of a drug addict and an absentee father, the hope of forward motion. She had been hired because she showed up so many times, cheerful and persistent, asking for work, and she had a way of flicking away setbacks — such as a missed bus on her three-hour commute — with the phrase, “I’m over it.”

Jannette Navarro at Starbucks.

Newly off public assistance, she was just a few credits shy of an associate degree in business and talked of getting a master’s degree as some of her co-workers were. Her take-home pay rarely topped $400 to $500 every two weeks; since starting in November, she had set aside $900 toward a car — her next step toward stability and independence for herself and her 4-year-old son, Gavin.

But Ms. Navarro’s fluctuating hours, combined with her limited resources, had also turned their lives into a chronic crisis over the clock. She rarely learned her schedule more than three days before the start of a workweek, plunging her into urgent logistical puzzles over who would watch the boy. Months after starting the job she moved out of her aunt’s home, in part because of mounting friction over the erratic schedule, which the aunt felt was also holding her family captive. Ms. Navarro’s degree was on indefinite pause because her shifting hours left her unable to commit to classes. She needed to work all she could, sometimes counting on dimes from the tip jar to make the bus fare home. If she dared ask for more stable hours, she feared, she would get fewer work hours over all.

“You’re waiting on your job to control your life,” she said, with the scheduling software used by her employer dictating everything from “how much sleep Gavin will get to what groceries I’ll be able to buy this month.”

Last month, she was scheduled to work until 11 p.m. on Friday, July 4; report again just hours later, at 4 a.m. on Saturday; and start again at 5 a.m. on Sunday. She braced herself to ask her aunt, Karina Rivera, to watch Gavin, hoping she would not explode in annoyance, or worse, refuse. She vowed to somehow practice for the driving test that she had promised her boyfriend she would pass by the previous month. To stay awake, she would formulate her own behind-the-counter coffee concoctions, pumping in extra shots of espresso.

A sign with a missed deadline hanging in the kitchen.

Scheduling Chaos

Like increasing numbers of low-income mothers and fathers, Ms. Navarro is at the center of a new collision that pits sophisticated workplace technology against some fundamental requirements of parenting, with particularly harsh consequences for poor single mothers. Along with virtually every major retail and restaurant chain, Starbucks relies on software that choreographs workers in precise, intricate ballets, using sales patterns and other data to determine which of its 130,000 baristas are needed in its thousands of locations and exactly when. Big-box retailers or mall clothing chains are now capable of bringing in more hands in anticipation of a delivery truck pulling in or the weather changing, and sending workers home when real-time analyses show sales are slowing. Managers are often compensated based on the efficiency of their staffing.

Scheduling is now a powerful tool to bolster profits, allowing businesses to cut labor costs with a few keystrokes. “It’s like magic,” said Charles DeWitt, vice president for business development at Kronos, which supplies the software for Starbucks and many other chains.

Yet those advances are injecting turbulence into parents’ routines and personal relationships, undermining efforts to expand preschool access, driving some mothers out of the work force and redistributing some of the uncertainty of doing business from corporations to families, say parents, child care providers and policy experts.

In Brooklyn, Sandianna Irvine often works “on call” hours at Ashley Stewart, a plus-size clothing store, rushing to make arrangements for her 5-year-old daughter if the store needs her. Before Martha Cadenas was promoted to manager at a Walmart in Apple Valley, Minn., she had to work any time the store needed; her mother “ended up having to move in with me,” she said, because of the unpredictable hours. Maria Trisler is often dismissed early from her shifts at a McDonald’s in Peoria, Ill., when the computers say sales are slow. The same sometimes happens to Ms. Navarro at Starbucks.

By Saturday afternoon of the Fourth of July weekend, Ms. Navarro had made it through “clopening,” closing late at night and opening again just a few hours later. But she had not yet worked up the courage to ask Ms. Rivera and Ms. Rivera’s boyfriend, Oscar Nuñez, for help the next day with Gavin.

Gavin with Oscar Nuñez.

The couple had repeatedly given her safe harbor over the years: when Ms. Navarro’s mother abandoned her at the age of 17, and then died of an overdose; when Gavin’s father disappeared without paying child support. But since Ms. Navarro started at Starbucks, her job had often spilled over into the lives of Ms. Rivera and Mr. Nuñez so that they had trouble juggling their own jobs — Ms. Rivera’s as a dental assistant and his as a mechanic — or making plans with their two toddlers. “It puts a strain on the whole household, on my relationship with Karina,” said Mr. Nuñez, 38.

Weekends, when Gavin’s day care center is closed, were particularly charged; on top of that, the couple disapproved of Ms. Navarro’s boyfriend, Nick Martinez. The tension culminated one night last winter, with all four adults screaming at one another on the front lawn. After that encounter, Ms. Navarro moved in with Mr. Martinez, 22. But months later, she still depended on her aunt for help, and Gavin tended to cling to the couple, crying and asking to stay at their house.

“You’re not working tomorrow, are you?” Ms. Rivera finally asked. She had already watched Gavin all of Saturday morning, she had made beach plans for Sunday, and when she heard the answer she grew exasperated. “We can’t even do our own thing,” she told Ms. Navarro, who felt guilty and then surprised: Her aunt folded, saying she would take Gavin again.

With the crisis averted, Ms. Navarro reported to work before dawn the next morning, napping on the sidewalk for a few minutes before it was time for her to open the store.

Two days later, on July 8, she had to tug her son out of bed just as early, rousing Gavin before 5 a.m. for their long commute. But this time her boyfriend, Mr. Martinez, helped her get ready for the day. He had been a supportive force, inviting her and Gavin to share the bedroom he had in his sister’s apartment, enjoying moments of surrogate fatherhood with the little boy.

Ms. Navarro’s boyfriend, Nick Martinez.

In turn, Ms. Navarro had helped Mr. Martinez get a job at her Starbucks store, and together they had become a team, both poor but pooling their resources to get ahead.

Ms. Navarro hated waking Gavin so early, but the trip from home to day care to work took a mile-long walk, two trolleys, a bus ride and over three hours.

Ms. Navarro’s three-hour commute to day care and then work.

At the day care center, her scattered schedule created a perpetual blizzard of paperwork, with Ms. Navarro documenting her ever-changing hours, lest she lose the precious placement. She knew Gavin was fortunate to attend a preschool with live hermit crabs and Play-Doh sea urchins. Many other parents with unstable work schedules rely on ragtag coverage, paying neighbors or relatives small sums to watch their children.

Child care and policy experts worry that the entire apparatus for helping poor families is being strained by unpredictable work schedules, preventing parents from committing to regular drop-off times or answering standard questions on subsidy forms and applications for aid: “How many hours do you work?” and “What do you earn?”

“Some families drop their kids at 7:30 and then come back at 10:30 saying there was no more work for the day,” said Patricia Smith, director of the Jeff and Deni Jacobs Child Development Center, the government-funded day care Gavin attends.

Gavin at day care.

Once Gavin was settled at the day care center, Ms. Navarro raced onto another bus, panicked when it skipped her stop, got off and ran back to Starbucks, and walked in 10 minutes late.

Her co-workers asked her how she was, pointedly but not unkindly. Through the grapevine, they had heard the news that Ms. Navarro was struggling to accept: Mr. Martinez was breaking up with her, and she and Gavin would lose another home.

Mr. Martinez had told her the evening before, explaining that he had been feeling too weighed down and that he could not do what he wanted — go back to school and get a better job — amid the whirl of Ms. Navarro’s last-minute logistics. “I bit off more than I could chew,” he said later.

Her failure to find time to practice driving and get her license had sealed his decision: The deadline on the refrigerator had been his final one, and she had missed it. With no child of his own, he did not feel as stymied by the shifting hours as she did, and he blamed Ms. Navarro for failing to move ahead fast enough. “If you want something badly enough, you’ll get it done,” he told her.

She had spent the night on the couch, sobbing, panicking, envisioning how every bit of her hard-won progress could disappear. She and Gavin would have no place to live. He could be kicked out of day care for having no home address. With no day care, she would not be able to work.

“Things were finally starting to come into order,” she said, thinking back to how the month had started. She had believed in Mr. Martinez, in her own momentum, in her ability to put together the basic pieces of a life.

“I just want to be able to live happily and comfortably,” she explained in a text message afterward.

Tuesday evening, the three shared a final dinner, Ms. Navarro visibly trembling with anxiety and anger.

Gavin had no idea he was about to lose his second home in six months, or the man who had been treating him like a son. “What’s the drink I like to get?” Mr. Martinez asked Gavin on the way back from dinner. “Venti soy mocha!” said the small voice.

Dinner the day after Mr. Martinez broke up with Ms. Navarro.

Not Alone

Ms. Navarro’s erratic hours had not caused the crisis, but their effects had radiated outward, eroding nearly all of her plans and relationships.

Andrew Alfano, a senior vice president of retail at Starbucks, said that an experience like Ms. Navarro’s was an anomaly, and that the company provided at least a week’s notice of work hours, as well as stable schedules for employees who want them. However, in interviews with current and recent workers at 17 Starbucks outlets around the country, only two said they received a week’s notice of their hours; some got as little as one day.

“If for some reason we haven’t lived up to what we aspire to, it’s really disappointing,” Mr. Alfano said. “We want to know about it, we want to fix it.” Another spokesman said the company would reiterate its scheduling policies to managers across the country.

Like many employers, Starbucks also says that its variable hours can be a plus, adding that the coffee chain provides benefits — like health care, 401(k) matching, stock and tuition for online degrees — that many retailers do not. (Ms. Navarro said she was three classes shy of being able to transfer and take advantage of the tuition offer.)

But flexibility — an alluring word for white-collar workers, who may desire, say, working from home one day a week — can have a darker meaning for many low-income workers as a euphemism for unstable hours or paychecks. Legislators and activists are now promoting proposals and laws to mitigate the scheduling problems. But those who manufacture and study scheduling software, including Mr. DeWitt of Kronos, advocate a more direct solution: for employers and managers to use the software to build in schedules with more accommodating core hours.

“The same technology could be used to create more stability and predictability,” said Zeynep Ton, a professor at M.I.T. who studies retail operations.

Ms. Navarro turned out to be a case in point.

By August, she and Gavin were staying on an air mattress at the home of a former co-worker, with occasional nights at her aunt’s house, and no idea where they would go next. Gavin was crying more than usual, exhausted and unsure of where Mr. Martinez had gone. Over the past month she had downgraded her ambitions; the best she now hoped for was to be promoted to shift supervisor. The only happy news was that she had somehow passed her driving test.

Mr. Nuñez consoles Gavin, who is upset to leave, and Ms. Navarro gets ready to take Gavin to stay at her friend’s.

Then her wallet was stolen, leaving her without even a bus pass. Ms. Navarro was so desperate that she finally threw herself on her manager’s mercy, taking her into the back room to explain the misery of her situation and plead for more and better hours. “I need the full 40,” she said, slumped on the floor because she was too tired to stand.

Later, asked by a reporter about Ms. Navarro’s situation, a Starbucks spokesman said the company would work to stabilize her schedule.

Even before then, Ms. Navarro’s manager was taking a closer look at her hours. A few days after their discussion, a new schedule appeared. Ms. Navarro would still have to arrive before dawn on the weekend. But she would now work nearly 40 hours a week, which happened rarely before. And for three precious weekdays, her job at Starbucks, her job as a mother and the day care schedule would be in alignment: She would start around 8 in the morning and finish around 4.


O'Brother, Where Art Thou HEMP?

Let me start by setting the record straight. HEMP and Marijuana are not one in the same. At best, they are first cousins from a family gene pool species known as cannabis. The key difference between the two is that marijuana will typically contain between 5% – 15% (delta-9 TetraHydroCannabinol) or THC for short. That’s the psychoactive hallucinogenic ingredient that makes you high when you smoke –“toke-toke-toke; take it to the head”- marijuana. There are practically no THC’s in Industrial Hemp, which registers at less than 1% THC.   Smoke a Hemp joint, and you’ll probably end up with a throbbing headache. And – No munchies side effects whatsoever-


Hemp has a deep and rich history with humans that extend back some 10,000 years or so. It happens to be one of the oldest industries known to mankind. During the 17th century American farmers in Connecticut, Virginia and Massachusetts were ordered…not requested…ORDERED by law to grow Indian hemp on their farmland. By the early parts of the 18th century you could actually receive a jail sentence, literally due time in jail if you were found guilty of NOT growing hemp on your land!!!

That’s not all my friend! For the first 200 years of our glorious country’s formation, colonial Americans could use hemp as a legal currency. They could even use hemp to pay their taxes! Talk about the Good Old Days!!!

So how is it that a country as powerful as the United States, who’s people are rich with knowledge, have freedoms to communicate openly; if not always wisely, and govern themselves for the betterment of humanity: how is it that we who hunger daily for the truth from the likes of Rachel Maddow and Jon Stewart, and possess an unwavering desire for “Green” products and renewable resources for our planet; have allowed the Power Of Hemp to remain dormant?


Well, since you asked so nicely, I’ll tell you. You see, much like the powerful politicians of today who cast laws that often times harm the people; and unchecked news media that sensationalize first…and fact check later; it was even worse in the early and mid 1900’s. You generally had one source of information that everyone used. There wasn’t an ability to use “GOOGLE” to find the truth or Twitter and Facebook accounts from which you could at least ascertain an opinion. You TRUSTED your leaders to do their jobs, and to do the right things with your best interest at heart.

It was in the 1930’s that the U.S. government and the FOX NEWS media…. just kidding… FOX wasn’t born yet, began to disseminate outrageous lies to the American public about marijuana and the evils that would follow its use and abuse. They preached and published things like; (“Marijuana: The devil’s weed with roots in hell”, “Marijuana makes fiends of boys in 30 days”, “Reefer Madness”, etc.) Well needless to say all of that propaganda quickly led to a public outrage and the prohibition of Marijuana soon followed. All uses of it were banned in the United States under the Marijuana Tax Act of 1937.  Although some of the well-educated legislators fought to keep hemp separate from its evil twin by illustrating the differences, the feckless legislators were too large in numbers and deep in pockets, so hemp too was banned.

Even back then there were powerful lobbyist and special interest groups that wanted to suppress the truths regarding the “wonder-plant”. As is much the case in today’s society, when there is a chance for a few to make lots of money by spreading false truths; then so be it. Be damned the consequences of such a decision on the “47 percent” who scrape the bottom of the nation’s barrel to survive in some politician’s feeble minds.

The goal of the powerful individuals who primed and prodded their puppets to pass the hemp bill needed it to happen so that they could advance their new chemical and synthetic (nylon) fibers and plastics. They did what they needed to do in order to establish dominants for their competing products. Not to mention that the timber industry could really thrive once hemp was out of the way. You only have to think with your wallet to realize that hemp stood in the way of establishing the foundation for what are today’s billionaire clubs. So you see, that’s why hemp HAD TO GO!

They packaged hemp with Marijuana, enlisted the help of a few syndicated newspapers and purchasable town criers and viola. The seventy-fifth Congress held hearings and introduced the House Report #792 which became the 1937 Marijuana Tax Act. Hemp was only guilty by association with the cannabis family and the fact that it was too cheap for the average farmer to grow and thus making it impossible for corporations to make really big money.


Hemp is a fast growing, highly insect and disease resistant ecofriendly plant. Thus almost completely eliminating the need for pesticides and herbicides to produce. Hemp doesn’t need a lot of space, nor does it need a lot of water like other plants to thrive. So you use less vital resources to produce your harvest while the density of the plants automatically choke out weeds and other stray vegetation. Industrial hemp can also be grown in a multitude of soil types. The average stalks can reach 15 – 17 feet tall in 70 – 90 days and be ready to have their bounty harvested. This growth cycle is similar to that of maize, or corn as we call it which takes 60 -100 days for harvest maturity in the proper climate.

Hemp, by far and away is the number one ecosystem friendly industrious producer on our great planet. A descent farmer could yield in the neighborhood of 10 tons per acre in approximately 3 – 4 months. Since this plant contains about 77% cellulose, which basically is the usable fibers in plants, it could replace our forest usage. Trees by contrast register around 60% cellulose and those 1,700 basis points in cellulose variance are a pretty big deal when making products.

In 1938 a Popular Mechanic’s article stated that hemp had the capability of creating over 25,000 different products by utilizing the oil, seed and fibers. That was well before we had access to the beautiful minds, technology and collaboration that we have today. Just think of the jobs and infrastructure that could be created by this one little plant today.

Look what “hydraulic fracking” did for North Dakota and the oil industry before we got the wonderful relief in gas prices and the industry began to falter. If you ask me, the prices came down because the booming industry in America gave pause to the foreign nations who depend on our generosity of purchasing their oil. But that’s another discussion. Although there were a tremendous amount of jobs and infrastructure during the boom, the dangers of fracking are well documented and observed. The biggest danger with hemp is perhaps an oil spill from a plant that is extracting the plant’s seeds for its oil for bio-diesel fuel conversion. You know what an oil spill from a Hemp bio-diesel conversion plant would be called??? It’s called FERTILIZER! I’ll tell you why later in this article.

Hemp is actually used in other countries of the world. Our Canadian neighbors have enjoyed and thrived using this wonder product. Today you can purchase Nutiva Organic Hempseed Oil from Canada on Amazon. One tablespoon will provide you with 500mg of Omega-6 GLA and 250mg of Omega-3 SDA along with other Omega supplements. You health freaks out there know what I’m talking about. I’ll provide additional alimentary factors later in the article. Other countries too enjoy the fruits of the hemp labor in industries such as fabric, food, bio-diesel fuel, paper, plastics, rope, building materials, molded panels, car components, wallpaper, acoustic baffling and much…much more.

At onetime in our not so distant past, 85 percent of all rope, twine, cordage, ship sails, canvas, cloth, shoes, rugs…etc. were made out of U.S. certified hemp fibers. Then, as I mentioned earlier, in 1935 along came a little startup company that is now one of the most rich and powerful chemical corporations in the world. It has been said that they, along with other cotton growing, tree farming, oil drilling cohorts, lobbied the government and “greased enough palms” to put the kibosh on the use of hemp fiber in favor of their newly discovered petrochemical (nylon) fibers.   The rest, as we say, was HISTORY.

Hemp’s usage to make clothing creates nothing short of a Super Fabric! Get this. Un-dyed hemp fabric will not rot, shrink, stink nor will it fade in direct sunlight. It is naturally anti-microbial, anti-mildew, naturally UV resistant and readily takes on eco-safe plant-based dyes. You can blend hemp fibers with cotton, silk, bamboo, spandex and other natural and manmade fibers to make a wide variety of fabrics with various attractive properties. It is also an efficient insulator keeping you warm in winter and cool in summer. Hello Under Armour, Nike, The North Face????

Are you starting to see a pattern here? If something that we consume daily by the mega-tons can be made to lasts longer, be cheaper to make and is more ecofriendly to the environment than what is dominantly used in our society today, there must be something wrong…. RIGHT? Not necessarily. The economy is hooked on a drug and frankly we’re all caught up in the viscous cycle. You’re darn right it’s NOT FAIR! But we can’t just be outraged, point our fingers and say that it’s their fault, those rich Wall Street one percenters. We’ll all pitch some tents and expect tomorrow to be different.

You’re a compassionate, understanding human being; right? Look at it through their rose colored, Armani, diamond encrusted glasses. If you were a major shareholder or Board member of a giant corporation employing thousands or millions of people with your inferior products, would you vote to change? Could you in good conscious shut down factories, layoff workers and allow some cheap wanna-be product to come in and demand a seat at the table? It’s bad for big businesses that thrive on our need to replace inferior and watered down products regularly, which has fed their need for greed for decades.

But that’s exactly why we HAVE to change! Doing the WRONG things, even for the seemingly right reasons has done nothing but keep all of us locked in a stalemate with our economic and civilization’s demise. Power and corruption doesn’t last in people…powerful and corrupted ideas do! Let us not be led into temptation, but deliver us from evil, as life is not for long, but to be longed for. Stay thirsty my friend.

Talk about Long-lasting

I recently read an article that stated somewhere in Sichuan China they found a 2000-year-old hemp-rope toupee. My man’s secondary hair was still kicking it. I guess they use to feel the need to “strut their stuff” back then as well. Some people believe that it was the use of hemp in the rigging of the parachute that saved the life of George Bush Sr. when he hurled himself from his burning plane.

Hemp has a whole bastion of fantastic fabric properties. From the softening of the material after each wash; to the minuscule fabric degradation you see year after year even with constant use. When compared to cotton it comes out way ahead, and yet our nation refuses to do the right thing. Hemp is a much safer crop to grow than cotton. Cotton has the propensity to damage the soil and needs an abundance of fertilizers, herbicides and pesticides to produce usable fibers. Cotton occupies about 1% of our country’s farmland and yet uses over 50% of all pesticides. Not to mention that it uses some of the most toxic and hazardous chemicals available today. 1 acre of hemp will produce as much usable fibers as 3 acres of cotton.

“Just The Facts Ma’am!”

Did I happen to mention that hemp is also flame retardant, it’s 4 times more water absorbent than cotton, 3 times the tensile strength of cotton and many times more durable than cotton. So what the heck is it with the choice to use cotton over hemp? It’s the very same reason that we don’t see more 60+ mpg automobiles on the road today. Industry hasn’t told us that we want/need it yet, so only a few of us branch out on our own to enjoy now what will be the inevitable future.

When we collectively demand something, then businesses will supply it. Because there are so few suppliers at the moment for hemp, the charge for the retailers to produce products touting hemp’s beneficial factors are cost prohibitive at the moment. Although I bet if the Kardashians wore hemp-based products, the whole wide world would change to hemp overnight. Love’em or hate’em, that’s a powerful family empire Kris Kardashian-Jenner has created and that I admire.

But we can change all of that. Not the Kardashians, sticks with me on the hemp issue here will ya? We have the power of 10 generations before us. With our ability to congeal, focus and commit ourselves to a cause: we all can once again be a part of a thriving Hemp Nation!


Need more convincing? Get this! We all talk about saving the forests and preserving trees and yet the average American uses about 750 pounds of paper each year. Much of it wasted down the toilets as excess tissue and wiping down countertops and dirty faces with paper towels. Don’t look around; I’m talking about you. That adds up to about 190 billion pounds of paper being used each and every year in the United States. It takes 4 acres of trees to match the paper production capabilities of just 1 acre of Hemp. Not to mention the fact that the hemp can be harvested every season, whereas it takes on average 15 – 20 years to grow a tree from sapling to harvest size.

Hemp paper is stronger, acid free and costs about half as much to process as it does tree paper. Wood based paper can be recycled about 2 times before it really starts to lose its integrity. Hemp paper on the other hand can be recycled as much as 10 times before you need to introduce additional virgin fibers to equal the same consistency.


The King James Bible (17th C.) originally was printed on hemp-based papers. So were the first two drafts of our very own Declaration of Independence in 1776 by Thomas Jefferson. Hemp stalks can be used to produce fiberboard, insulation, carpet, cement blocks, concrete, stucco, mortar and a substitute for fiberglass. Hemp oil is extracted from the hemp seeds and can be used to produce plastics, oil based paints, varnishes, inks, solvents, lubricants, putty and various coatings.

 And if all of that wasn’t enough, the hemp seed is edible. Of the 3 million plus edible plants that grow on Earth, no other plant source can compare to the pure nutritional value of hempseeds. Hempseeds are an excellent 3:1 ratio balance of omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids, which promote cardiovascular health. They are also extremely high in gamma linoleic acid (GLA), an essential omega-6 fatty acid found in borage oil and egg yolks that has been proven naturally to balance hormones. Scientist have documented 7 of the most highly health benefits of Hemp:

  1. Control inflammation and strengthen the immune system
  2. Fiber and heart health
  3. Reduce muscle contractions and regulate body temperature
  4. Alleviate Arthritis and Rheumatism
  5. Promotes healthy hair, skin and nails
  6. Promotes regular bowel movements
  7. Reduces the risk of several deadly Cancers


About 14 years ago, some industrious engineers took a Mercedes Benz station wagon and converted the diesel engine to run on Industrial hemp bio-diesel. This vehicle was then driven some 13,000 miles while touring some 50 cities in North America. It was powered solely by 600 gallons of hemp bio-diesel fuel, which is made from the stalk of the hemp plant. The exhaust emissions of carbon monoxide were reduced by 47%. Now, understand that this was an example done 14 years ago, in technology terms that would put you back in the 1960’s. Using a Mercedes Benz Station Wagon, which is a very large and very heavy automobile. Imagine the mileage in a smaller, lighter more technologically advanced car of today.

Bio-diesel made from hemp degrades 85 – 88 percent in water in about 28 days. No EPA clean up issues for a spill or closing a fuel station. Any CO2 released from burning hemp as fuel matches the CO2 the plant had beneficially taken from the environment wile growing, creating what is called a closed carbon cycle that would definitely slow down the effects of global climate change.

So again I ask you.

O brother & sister, Where Art Thou Hemp?

It awaits our group effort to join forces and protect what is right; versus holding onto what has been wrong oh so many years. The politicians need to hear our roar and obey our wishes. Because politicians are genuinely interested in people, not that this is always a virtue: because fleas are genuinely interested in dogs and that doesn’t always work in the dog’s favor.

All jokes aside. We need to conserve water…like yesterday. Allowing hemp to again become a fabric in our society will benefit ALL of us in a material way and help to preserve our future. Have you seen what’s happening in California with the drought and water concerns?

You there, in your snug, comfortable home in Kentucky. Yeah you! Thanks for reading the article, but if you don’t think that you will be impacted where you live by what’s going on way over there in California, think again. We will all suffer along with Californians as they control the lion share of our fruit and vegetable production and there will indeed be other states that will soon join in their misery regarding the drought.   It has been said that water will become the next oil and I for one see it coming as well.

So I say to you, connect with and be a part of the movement to encourage our legislatures to “JUST DO RIGHT!”. This is OUR life, this is OUR world! No one expects more for himself or herself than they deserve, but everyone has to stop accepting less than RIGHT! Don’t leave this Earth without at least trying your best to make it a better place, now and forever more.

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